So I just finished doing my dissertation in my phD program and got a bunch of free time now. It was on Bioinformatics and Integrative Genomics. I rejoined my old guild that I left when I was in my undergrad, and got say 7 months before they need me on the research team again. My guild captain and co-leader is my live-in vanilla gf of 8 years and she's been antagonistic on my members, she was offending people asking to verify. Now I totally understand the need to avoid promoting dishonest people by accident into high rank, I have also a verification system in my community's Discord server as it is completely online with nobody being in irl alternative lifestyle as most are playing a fantasy to relief boredom afterwork/study. There I have the persona of Algaron the map roper, owning 1 full time online sub girl (he is a man in real life but online identifies as a girl for the purpose of play). My problem is that my captain is scaring off my new members and I have no good reason to stop her from issuing verification papers on the player. Now she's threatening to tell my parents about my gaming and my Discord server, then they'll cut any support to me, they're hardcore religious Christian parents there is a good reason I moved away from them for university. My vanilla captain has no idea how much she will wreck my life if she told them my secrets and I've been forced into hiding not able to come out to even my in-person community events anymore. Finally the covid limits are lifting and I'm not able to game decently or do anything in person. I can't lose my server because I'm using it to impress tourist women at my group. My captain is going to move out with a Richmond guy soon and tell my parents about my secrets, how can I stop her without breaking any laws in real life? How do you guys prevent this kind of privacy problems from breaking into your irl relationships and social groups? I'm not hoping to get anyone serious even with my server but I've been in my group since I was 18 and now I'm 37 no luck, I own a small pharmacy locally that's passed down from my uncle and I've done my phD dissertation yet no one is responding and my live-in gf is going away to Richmond. If she really tells my parents, it will spread to most of my social group and I might not even be able to game or run my GW2 guild anymore, my realm is SBI and it's a nice quiet realm where word spreads fast and community is very close, I really need to stop her! My community is Somerville Community Center and they're really tough on rules if I'm violent or loud in any way or recorded in aggressive behavior I will be kicked out with remark in my papers for the next 10 years! In the meantime I'm reading and hearing about all these real life perfect gamer couples and gamer groups where nothing private is compromised out into other parts of their life, where guild leadership works together and they're all married in real life and with proof of status and lifestyle. They're so happy, why can't I have that, I've worked so hard and tried everything, now that vanilla girl will ruin everything!